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Istiaq Mian's avatar

I loved all of this. Should be required to read for any memoir writer! There’s a fork in the road which is, do I write truthfully from my lens? Or do I not write and not be me? If you can’t do the latter, then you follow Elissa’s advice and carry on.

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Ruthie Ackerman's avatar

"Don’t write to the people you’re scared of—then you’ll write like you’re scared. Write to the people who will thank you for articulating something they couldn’t" A million times yes!

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Bizzy Coy's avatar

The writer CLEARLY DEFINES the perfect ratio of oral-sex scenes to wedding ceremony scenes to include in a piece of writing (1:2-5), and then she fails to include EITHER in the post itself! This frightens and confuses me, a clueless reader who is just here for the oral sex and wedding scenes!

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Elissa Bassist's avatar

I'm leading the horses to water, but I can't make them bone or wed!

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Bizzy Coy's avatar

lmao

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Mara Eller's avatar

Great tips and perspectives! So many writers struggle with this.

Also, just signed up for your March 30 class. So excited!

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Elissa Bassist's avatar

I'm excited to enter into the eternal student-teacher bond with you!

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Kendra Fiddler's avatar

“Example of a lawyer” I’m cackling 😆

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Kayla Heisler's avatar

Perfect timing: day three of residency (and of rereading my traumady class handouts)!

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Elissa Bassist's avatar

I hope you took many productive naps.

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Kathleen Donahoe's avatar

okay KENNEDY CENTER!! You are so fancy, we love to see it.

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